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My wife and I have been married for six years and have a young daughter. We have been trying to have another baby for some time now, but for some reason have been unable to conceive. This has put a huge strain on our relationship and our sex life. I really don’t know what to do to make things better. Please help.

Millie D’Souza, Mangalore

Conceiving is a lot harder than it appears. In fact, it can take several months of intense, focused effort including self-education, planning and major lifestyle changes. Inability to conceive often brings stress, disappointment, anger, boredom and self-doubt. This is the time to support your wife all the way. Accept that you both will experience bouts of frustration and impatience. Be open to learning, including accompanying her to the doctor’s appointments, and preparing questions of your own. Partner her in her quest to lose weight, exercise more or change her diet.