Questions To Ask Before You Divorce

If you’re thinking of getting divorced, you want to be sure it’s the right decision. Consider these key points to work out whether you’re ready for what comes next.

- Larraine Sathicq

When it comes to divorce, severing emotional and domestic ties isn’t the only thing to consider. ending a long-term relationship is a life-changing decision often driven by powerful emotions, and it’s rarely simple or straightforward. we don’t always take into account the practicalities regarding children, money and property. if you’re not sure you’re making the right choice, you’re worried about how your decision will affect your children, or you have concerns about your financial future, read on. here are the key questions to ask yourself before officially ending your relationship…

Have you tried counselling?

It’s worth seeking professional advice, if only to help you make a decision about whether it’s worth trying to work on your relationship or confirm your belief that it’s not fixable, says relationship counsellor Alexandra Barbas. ‘Many relationships are derailed because the dynamics of the relationship aren’t working,’ she explains. ‘Counselling can help couples identify what’s wrong, what’s good, and what could be good in a relationship. It can also help remind you of what drew you to each other in the first place.’ If your partner refuses to try relationship counselling, it still can be a good idea to go alone, as at least you’ll feel you’ve tried everything before ending things. Plus, it can help with the emotional aspect of separation.

Do you need legal advice?

Divorce involves more than just a marriage ending, and can entail proceedings about reaching an agreement on finances, such as dividing property, childcare set-ups, and maintenance. Typically, most divorces go to court (litigation), but you can also take the route of mediation, in which an impartial professional will help assist both parties in reaching an agreement amicably.