Get Some, Get More, Get Better!

Are you getting the sex you deserve? Our sex experts have 16 key questions you need to ask yourself on everything from blood pressure to length of your typical sexual encounters to how many “hot spots” on your partner you can list in the blink of an eye!

- Adam Rouch

1 HOW MANY TIMES A WEEK DO YOU HAVE SEX?

The average guy has sex about twice a week if he's married--a little less often (once) if he's single, a little more (three times) if he's single but shacking up. If you're not hitting your number, work on your approach. In a University of New Orleans study, nearly 70 percent of men reported that when they initiate sex, they overestimate their partners' desire to get it on, most likely because they think women are like gas grills: Flick a switch and they get hot. Talking to her--about work, family, the news--is the greatest aphrodisiac for a woman because it establishes a bond of sharing that she equates with romance. To you, it's conversation. To her, it's intimacy.

2 HOW STRESSFUL IS YOUR JOB?

You'd think stress would be as deflating to a sex life as a litter of puppies in the bedroom. But a stressful job (or even a dangerous one) involving some level of competition, as in law or sales, can actually improve it. "Real competition can drive up testosterone, which boosts libido," says Helen Fisher, Ph.D., author of Why We Love. "Being amped up by a high-powered, high-stress job is more likely to make you more sexually active" than idling in a cushy, low-key career. If work doesn't fire you up, seek a testosterone jolt in a recreational sports league. Men who get game increase testosterone levels by 15 percent, according to a Pennsylvania State University study. Even better, make her your steady doubles partner. The same study showed that women increased their libido-regulating testosterone by 49 percent during competition.

3 THE MOST COMMON SOUND TO COME FROM HER MOUTH DURING SEX IS…