Are you dating a sociopath? An abuser? Here are some warning signs you need to look out for.
Most women who have been in abusive relationships will tell you they saw the red flags in their partners’ behaviour such as throwing stuff, dictating what she wore, and keeping her from her friends. Things that made them uncomfortable but they did not address them because they did not understand the meaning and feelings behind what they saw.
Just like most packages and products that come with a warning or caution, people do too but you have to be observant. Abusive relationships are increasingly becoming common and that is why it is important to identify an abuser before getting deep into a relationship.
There are various warnings that may seem confusing or you may choose to ignore, but if some of these things are ignored, they might lead to a lifetime of misery and pain. We spoke to some psychologists and counsellors who all agree that it’s best to come out of a relationship before it becomes toxic.
These 14 traits of an abuser will help you figure out if you are in a toxic relationship or not and maybe help you analyse things you have previously overlooked.
HE INSISTS ON QUICK INVOLVEMENT
Quick involvement is a sure sign that the relationship might be abusive. During this time, the partner will often says things like, ‘I can’t live without you’ or ‘I really need you to marry me,’ they tend to guilt you into the relationship, making it seem as if they are dependent on you - within a few days or weeks of meeting.
This story is from the October 2018 edition of TRUE LOVE Magazine East Africa.
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