I've Been Single For Eight Years —And I'm Totally Ok With It

Here’s a perspective you don’t get to hear often when it comes to love: there’s nothing wrong with you if you’ve been single for an extended period of time.

I should know, because I’m 30 this year and I’ve been single for the past eight years of my life. And of those eight, four have breezed past without me going on as much as a single date. No casual coffees, no after-work drinks; but hey, no dating anxiety, either.

Before you gasp and recoil in horror, I’m—spoiler alert— perfectly fine! Sure, there are pros and cons to my particular situation. I do miss having a consistent sex life; that really dwindles when you don’t proactively date. I also miss the emotional intimacy and a reliable partner to just do mundane stuff with like going to the movies or trying out a new restaurant together. Call me selfish, but the same time, I really relish being able to figure out my own life… without having to consider anyone else.