Dating is meant to be fun and spontaneous. But, with many people wanting to know exactly what to expect, should there be a timeline to keep in mind?
So, you meet someone interesting, swap numbers, start chatting and after a few dates, become a couple. It’s all fun and games, as it should be, but there are a few things that you need to keep in mind. “Dating can be daunting if you are the kind of person who needs structure and rules,” says Ramona Bright, a relationship counsellor. “I often advise people who take dating overly serious to focus more on the moment instead of pre-empting what should be. No two relationships are the same, and sometimes setting a timeline can rob you of beautiful moments,” she warns. With this in mind, a little guidance can help, especially if you’re new at dating. Here are a few milestones to look out for.
FIRST DATE
This is the period where you get to know someone. Use this time to figure out if you have anything in common and if there is chemistry between you two.
Topics – Use this time to find out their habits, likes and dislikes as well as a personal history. “Personal history does not mean digging too much. But, someone is likely to give you clues into their life and its dynamics. It’s also likely that they will ask questions about you. Keep it light; it’s a date not an interview,” Ramona says.
THREE MONTHS
This story is from the May 2017 edition of Bona.
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