Did bestie just cross a line?
Brunch|April 13, 2024
BFFs are close. But they can get too close for comfort. Here's howto set boundaries within a secure friendship
Karishma Kuenzang
Did bestie just cross a line?

In Bride Wars, besties Anne Hathaway and Kate Hudson fight because both planned weddings on the same day. Few friends in real life would make big decisions without checking with their engaged friends.

BFFs are special. They make you laugh, never judge (even though their expression says it all), let you air your weirdest thoughts (only to realise that you're both the same kind of weird). They're your safe space.

It's exactly why drawing boundaries with a BFF is tricky. Even safe spaces need privacy. What happens when they demand to know more than you're willing to share? Here's expert help on how to set four common boundaries with a bestie, without ruining the friendship.

Sex-life TMI.

Some friends revel in the details. Some are just looking out for you. Either way, having to open up when you'd rather not, can get a little annoying. Rewind to that episode of Friends when highschool Monica (a virgin) wanted every cringey detail about high-school Rachel's date. Life coach Jai Madaan suggests broaching the subject by saying you value the friendship and level of trust. And adding "I hope you can understand that there are aspects of my life, that I still need to figure out. I'm not comfortable talking about them just yet." If it appears that they care more about the plot than about you, here's what to say: "Listen, this friendship matters more to me than the juicy details. Have patience. I'll tell you when I'm ready," she recommends.

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