When was the last time you hooked up sober? If you can’t remember—either because it’s been too long or your hangover has melted your memory—you’re not alone. A growing number of young women use alcohol as a sexual lubricant…to the detriment of intimacy and enjoyment. Cosmo explores.
You’ve Heard of casual drinkers, heavy drinkers, and social drinkers. Now an alarming number of women fall into a new type of imbibers: sexual drinkers, aka people who aren’t necessarily alcoholics but do rely on alcohol to get it on. You probably know a few, even if you aren’t one yourself. A recent study found that 30 percent of sexually active women who drink never hook up without reaching some level of inebriation, according to the American Journal of Public Health.
The most frequent offenders? Singles. Columbia University researchers confirmed they’re three times as likely as people in relationships to engage in some pre-bed room boozing. Add to that the fact that binge drinking in women in has shot up seven times faster than in men over the last decade and the rise of sexual drinkers begins to make sense.
“There’s a strong belief that alcohol and sex go together,” says Megan Patrick, PhD, research associate professor at the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research. “The way young single people interact with potential sexual partners pretty much revolves around alcohol.”
For women, the link is an emotional one. A cocktail before a date can act as a kind of “intimacy tonic” that takes the edge off potential sex with someone you only know from an app. Sipping has become a form of self-treatment for sexual anxiety or a lack of confidence. “I enjoy sex more when I’ve been drinking,” says Linn, 22. “I know I’ll worry less about things like how my stomach looks or whether I’ll say something embarrassing.”
It’s an easy habit to fall into, and one that can escalate quickly—what starts as an occasional pre-game beverage, then a few more during the date itself, can snowball until getting drunk is an every-date occurrence.
This story is from the May 2017 edition of Cosmopolitan Philippines.
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